Your Time Is Coming!!!

Being single has many benefits in which you neglect to remember when you’re in a relationship.  I see the benefits of both actually but it has been a very long time since I was in a mutually satisfying relationship in which I can compare it too.  Weighing the benefits sometimes can be a difficult task on both sides.  Do I stay or do I go now they rang out in song?

In my eyes a relationship is wonderful when you are involved with someone who is worthy, true, honest, and has values in which reflect the same ethics in which you yourself hold for a relationship.  It is wonderful when you have a partner, who is not filled with daily secrets, holding on to old relationships, or filled with demons in which they can’t even admit to themselves they have.  The camaraderie and the security of a relationship are grand.  Relationships though wonderful can also become toxic to your soul if you are involved with the wrong partner.    

However being single is quite grand too.  Different dates each week.   Each day getting to know new people who are interesting.  Your pick your own hours, days of the week, and who.  You get to meet new people and become exposed to new places, new friends, and new experiences.  It is exciting to meet someone new and have hope that one day you will love someone again.  Being single is fun at best though a great game of examination of the other person.  Sizing one another up as some would say when they enter the ring.

Three dates in one weekend.  I cannot say it wasn’t fun.  I cannot say that I didn’t have any less than the best of intentions with each individual.  I honestly wanted to meet each one.  I was interested in whom they were and the general thoughts in which is placed into first date small talk.  It was refreshing to talk with people who had more than one or two main interests.  I listened to stories about another’s families, pets, and their work. I also cannot say that I felt or was even ready to feel any type of connection. 

What sticks in my mind though is how each individual is on their best behavior in the start.  And I am left to wonder who they really are inside.  We each know as we move along that people change and become more comfortable.  Those same people tend to let down the guards they carried down and show true colors.  Sometimes those true colors are a deal breaker.  Sometimes those true colors are not deal breakers but even better than one expected.

I don’t know that I am looking for love but finding friendship is something in which I value greatly.  Love is too easy to find as so many will love you.  However finding someone who is truly your best friend first is the way I think it should happen.  Going the friendship route I think is the way in which I am heading.  If I can enjoy someone’s friendship than I feel I can let the love grow from that.  Don’t we all love our best friends?  With best friends the mutual trust and the bond is grown over time in order to become unbreakable.

I am sure more dating adventures are on the way provided I don’t settle too quickly for love. I am still though burned a hopeless romantic who has always chosen to see the best within others.  I hope you all who might read this out there have been lucky in your love and friendships.  The right one will be there when we least expect it. So until then don’t look for them.  Just exhale and wait…..your time is coming!